Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Hiding away from Agoraphobia

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One of the problems i face, rather weakness i have, i must say is to cope up with new situation, surrounding or people. It comes to me as natural nervousness when i m surrounded with lot of people. A feeling to act as a lone man marooned among people not knowing what to do, how to behave, what to say engulfs me. In fact words dont come out, i feel sweaty all the time and it looks as if a strange sort of fear has been injected to most of my neurons making me behave the way i do. This naturally leads to frequent silly mistakes and it just adds to my nervousness.

I dont know what the reason is - my introvert nature, my hatred to socializing or should i say my inability to socializing coz that'z what it is; generally hatred for some thing arises due to lack of the ability or skill to do that thing.

Surprising is the fact that i tend to do things better when i am alone or my conscious mind is made to believe that there is no one around. So things like chatting and blogging go well with me where in there is a level of invisibility involved.

One of the work around or solution that i have found to escape this fear is to turn a blind eye and make myself feel that there is no one around though its not possible to apply in every field. And other thing that i most often do is to be with someone that i know well wherever i go ;)

Quote: I'm not exactly agoraphobic but I'm pretty close ... I'm really afraid to go out - Billy Bob Thornton


Parth Barot said...

This thing is with everyone in less or more percent.

Someone like you is having fear like a small child. :) and some are having fear or shy of less things.This is not bad thing actually as its in your nature, but it should not affect your social/professional relations also.

I want to tell you is be in, be everywhere with people you like to and do more fun giving things.. May be it can help you to open up your self.


Don't afraid if you have much,also don't fear if you have nothing!

noisysmile said...

I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting to be around a lot of people. Personally I don't like the noise of too many people in one place, and I hate being in situations where there isn't enough space and I have to touch someone. As much as I love concerts they are a nightmare for me. I get physically ill if the music is too loud and people are sloshing beer all over me.
If I'm around people it seems as if I can feel everything they are feeling and the clashing emotions knock me over. It takes the breath right out me. Do you have moments like this? I think that is why I like tennis so much. I don't have to be intimate with other players. I tried volleyball and couldn't handle it because it was a lot of commands and accidental touching. Freaked me out lol!
But I honestly do not think of this as a problem or a flaw. I think of it as a blessing because I can spend so much more time with just a few important people and I get to know them very well. I also feel like the quiet that I seek is so much more amazing than a big hoopla of noise and crazy people. Silence is such a wonderful nurturer for creativity.
It is nice to know that there are folks out there like me. I think there are more of us than we realize because we are too busy hiding beneath our shells.

VioletSky said...

I really like your quote in your profile: I like to live silent in my own world.

I think even extroverts are a little nervous and wary around crowds or people they don't know, though perhaps not as much as we introverts. Perhaps, being extroverts, they hide their fears by talking and ACTING. We all seem to have this fear that is hard to admit or explain.

The best thing someone once told me was that a really good relationship with a friend is being able to be comfortable with being silent together.

Billy said...

i spend lots of time alone but i can easily melt in a crowd. in ny am confronted with crowds everyday. sometimes i find them interesting. other times i wish they could get disappeared. is all good. the crowd provides me with art material.

DeLi said...

while people and even friend thinks i am always have that confidence, i still have thsi feel and fear too

Jay Rajani said...

Fear of unknown is common human behavior whether it be a extrovert or introvert. Extrovert even fears of crowd or new surroundings. But the time to mix with them makes him distinct.

Even sometimes our boss or elder arrives all of a sudden and shout on us, we feel nervous, our eyes are filled with tears. That happens to everyone. But important is to know situation quickly, and react according so that the other person calms down.

whimsical brainpan said...

I am not a big fan of crowds either and try to avoid them whenever possible. I wish I could give you some wise words on how to cope but I have none. I just do my best and know I'll be alone again soon.

Sandy said...

@Parth Barot - Yeah true this fear is present in everyone. But proportion matters.

@noisysmile - You have expressed the feelings right. Thats exactly what i feel it really takes breath out of me. And you are true about the fact that 'Silence is nurturer for creativity'. But i do think its a problem confined to a small place with some people around not mingling with people makes me feel like a frog in the well or like acting like a big fish in small pond being dragged to an ocean where sharks and whales are ready to gobble you up. man what have i written - hard to understand.

@VioletSky - Thanks for likin my quote. just made it myself.

@Billy - wonderful to hear that you can mingle with crowd easily. Wish i could have done that easily.

@DeLi - good thing that you expressed it here.

@Jay Rajani - It feels like extroverts are full of confidence. May be the reason is as what violet sky explained. Its just not the shouting thing but being in a new place or where there are herds of people that i hv such feelings.

@whimsical brainpan - thanks for sharing.

Ward Irma said...

Panic disorder is one of several anxiety disorders. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), anxiety disorders are the most common of all psychiatric disorders. The anxiety disorders include agoraphobia, generalized anxiety disorder, social phobia, specific phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder.